Festive seasons are a time of joy, warmth, and togetherness — but they can also be overwhelming for people living with dementia. Changes in routine, busy gatherings, bright lights, and strong smells can all contribute to stress and confusion. Understanding how to create calm, supportive, and inclusive celebrations can help everyone enjoy the season more fully.
Why Celebrations Can Be Overwhelming
People living with dementia may experience challenges during festive times that many of us take for granted. Common difficulties include:
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Noise and crowds: Parties, fireworks, or busy shopping areas can feel chaotic.
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Lights and decorations: Flashing lights, unfamiliar decorations, or strong scents can be disorienting, and frightening for some.
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Changes to routine: Even small shifts in daily schedules can be unsettling.
Familiarity and calm are key. Signs that someone might be experiencing sensory overload include restlessness, withdrawal, irritability, or confusion. Recognising these signs early allows you to respond in ways that keep celebrations positive and manageable.
Creating Calm and Comfort
There are practical steps you can take to make festive occasions more comfortable for someone living with dementia:
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Create a quiet retreat space: A low-stimulation area with comfortable seating can offer a much-needed break.
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Use gentle lighting and familiar music: Soft light and favourite songs can soothe and reassure.
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Keep decorations and scents simple: Minimal decorations and subtle scents reduce the risk of overwhelm.
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Encourage breaks and flexible plans: Shorten activities if needed and allow the person to step away.
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Involve them in preparations: Letting someone choose music, decorations, or food helps them feel included and engaged.
Adapting Traditions and Encouraging Meaningful Conversations
Celebrations don’t have to be abandoned—they can be adapted to focus on what matters most.
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Simplify gatherings: Fewer guests, shorter celebrations, and a relaxed pace can make events more enjoyable.
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Keep meaningful traditions: Include favourite foods, songs, or rituals that hold personal significance.
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Use memories and sensory cues: Photos, music, and familiar scents can spark conversation and connection.
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Focus on connection, not perfection: The goal is shared enjoyment, not a flawless celebration.
Making Celebrations Inclusive
Across different cultures and traditions, common themes of festive seasons include light, food, family, warmth, and togetherness. To ensure everyone can participate:
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Make activities and spaces accessible for all abilities.
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Respect and celebrate cultural differences in how people mark the season.
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Encourage meaningful participation rather than insisting on rigid traditions.
With thoughtful planning and a focus on comfort, familiarity, and connection, festive celebrations can be a source of joy for everyone, including those living with dementia.
It’s Okay to Say No
Festive seasons can bring pressure to join every event or gathering. For carers and people living with dementia, it’s important to remember that it’s okay to step back or say no if a day feels too challenging. Focusing on what feels manageable can make celebrations calmer, more enjoyable, and less overwhelming for everyone.
You can learn more about Adapting Festive Seasons in this Unpacking Dementia session: (coming soon)
